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quasigeostrophy1. Why did your response to my request have to trigger one of my pet peeves?
Leave it to me to push buttons without knowing I'm doing it. If I don't know it's there, I'll find it. :-)
2. What's the best part about having started your own business?
The same that's the worst, I think: freedom to make our own decisions.
3. Sometimes when I'm looking at the world through my camera lens, I find that I miss out on some of the details of the rest of the world. Do you ever experience anything like that? How do you avoid or balance it?
I find that I just have to keep conscious about what's going on around me, as I'm prone to overlook the obvious if I get too focused, which I can do when I'm involved in something creative. It's mental exercise. Sometimes, lately, especially if I've never been somewhere before, I'll consciously decide not to look through the camera and live, enjoying my surroundings first - I can come back and take photos later.
4. Photography is an art. We know this. Talk about art with your artists eye, and tell us about how you look at other media, like sculpture or paint.
The timeliness of this question is amazing - I'm working on an artist's statement for a gallery submission that needs to answer the same thing. I know that some people would argue with the first statement in this question, that photography being an art is debatable. Hopefully it is obvious on which side of that debate I am. I look at it and other artistic media all from a personal aesthetic sense. What I like tends to use traditional subjects in non-traditional perspectives. M. C. Escher is one of my favorite artists. Magritte is another. I also look for unabashed use of the strengths of a medium - I love Van Gogh's style of painting because of his bold use of lots of paint and color. That's also why I tend to like video items that make a statement with minimal use of audio, as many cartoons by Chuck Jones do so well. Calvin and Hobbes and Rose is Rose also utilize the strengths of visuals in a comic, and I do consider them art.
5. What can you tell me about making a poly marriage work, that I haven't already been told, and might not already know?
Communication is the obvious (I hope) issue. All partners should discuss any and all boundaries as soon as possible, before a likely situation occurs. Talk about unforeseen circumstances, too (have a plan to handle something as well as you can at the time and discuss as soon as possible afterward). Discuss any egalitarianism, and how things may end up not being fair to all over short terms. Sometimes, IME, trying too hard to be fair ends up having an undesired effect. Keep in mind that a lot of what makes our poly marriage work, IMHO are the same things that make a marriage work - Toni and I are still trying all the time to be polite and respectful to each other after nearly 12 years. And we try to ensure we've been the same way with Al. It isn't perfect, and we all still have issues, but we talk about them respectfully. When Toni is away somewhere with Al, I take advantage of the alone time and try not to feel lonely and left out. It doesn't always work that way, but I remind myself that I'm not cut off, and it helps. It also helps, given that our relationships (mine and Toni's) with Al are LDRs, to keep in mind that the last state of the Relationship is unchanged unless and until hearing otherwise during any communication lags. We also don't consider there to be one Triad Relationship. Each of us (Toni, Al, and me) has a discrete relationship with each of the other individuals. That helps to minimize feelings of unfairness or being left out.
Leave it to me to push buttons without knowing I'm doing it. If I don't know it's there, I'll find it. :-)
2. What's the best part about having started your own business?
The same that's the worst, I think: freedom to make our own decisions.
3. Sometimes when I'm looking at the world through my camera lens, I find that I miss out on some of the details of the rest of the world. Do you ever experience anything like that? How do you avoid or balance it?
I find that I just have to keep conscious about what's going on around me, as I'm prone to overlook the obvious if I get too focused, which I can do when I'm involved in something creative. It's mental exercise. Sometimes, lately, especially if I've never been somewhere before, I'll consciously decide not to look through the camera and live, enjoying my surroundings first - I can come back and take photos later.
4. Photography is an art. We know this. Talk about art with your artists eye, and tell us about how you look at other media, like sculpture or paint.
The timeliness of this question is amazing - I'm working on an artist's statement for a gallery submission that needs to answer the same thing. I know that some people would argue with the first statement in this question, that photography being an art is debatable. Hopefully it is obvious on which side of that debate I am. I look at it and other artistic media all from a personal aesthetic sense. What I like tends to use traditional subjects in non-traditional perspectives. M. C. Escher is one of my favorite artists. Magritte is another. I also look for unabashed use of the strengths of a medium - I love Van Gogh's style of painting because of his bold use of lots of paint and color. That's also why I tend to like video items that make a statement with minimal use of audio, as many cartoons by Chuck Jones do so well. Calvin and Hobbes and Rose is Rose also utilize the strengths of visuals in a comic, and I do consider them art.
5. What can you tell me about making a poly marriage work, that I haven't already been told, and might not already know?
Communication is the obvious (I hope) issue. All partners should discuss any and all boundaries as soon as possible, before a likely situation occurs. Talk about unforeseen circumstances, too (have a plan to handle something as well as you can at the time and discuss as soon as possible afterward). Discuss any egalitarianism, and how things may end up not being fair to all over short terms. Sometimes, IME, trying too hard to be fair ends up having an undesired effect. Keep in mind that a lot of what makes our poly marriage work, IMHO are the same things that make a marriage work - Toni and I are still trying all the time to be polite and respectful to each other after nearly 12 years. And we try to ensure we've been the same way with Al. It isn't perfect, and we all still have issues, but we talk about them respectfully. When Toni is away somewhere with Al, I take advantage of the alone time and try not to feel lonely and left out. It doesn't always work that way, but I remind myself that I'm not cut off, and it helps. It also helps, given that our relationships (mine and Toni's) with Al are LDRs, to keep in mind that the last state of the Relationship is unchanged unless and until hearing otherwise during any communication lags. We also don't consider there to be one Triad Relationship. Each of us (Toni, Al, and me) has a discrete relationship with each of the other individuals. That helps to minimize feelings of unfairness or being left out.
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I know I already asked
Date: 2004-02-25 02:51 pm (UTC)1. Do you belive in shame?
2. Does anybody really know what time it is?
3. ...Would you like to swing on a star?
4. How many roads must a man walk down, before they call him a man?
5. Can you hear me, Major Tom?